Harassment & Being the Boss

In response to the #MeToo and #TimesUp movements, state legislatures and localities are taking action, including requiring sexual harassment training and policies that explain where employees can turn if they don’t believe their employer has handled the situation appropriately.  New York’s new law requires that policies explain that employees will be disciplined for engaging in harassment and – perhaps most importantly – managers will be disciplined when they allow harassment to happen.

Did you read that?  Managers will be disciplined for letting harassment continue. This is where NBC, CBS, and nearly every employer who makes the news has allegedly failed – a manager knew about the behavior and didn’t make it stop.  This, ladies and gentlemen, is why manager training is critical to the end of harassment.

The law focuses on managers because managers are the employer.  They make crucial decisions, like hiring and firing.  They sign contracts.  Often, the buck stops with them even if they are in the dreaded middle management.  This means managers are responsible to take action when they get wind of harassment, but often, managers don’t understand the crucial role they play in preventing and stopping harassment.  As legislative bodies take more and more action, here are some of the lessons you can incorporate into your training now:

Managers must know the work environment they create and manage.  For a manager, the word “manage” is in her title.  So, she must actually manage.  Merriam-Webster defines the verb “manage” as “to direct or carry on business or affairs.”  No one can effectively do this if she doesn’t know what is going on or doesn’t understand how her people interact.  So, dear manager, know your people.  Also, set a tone of respect with your people.  Be the example.  (You can have bad days – pobody’s nerfect – but when you make a mistake, acknowledge it and move forward.)  While the “doing” might be more fun, the “managing” is your job.  When you know the work environment, you can take steps to prevent harassment.

Managers have the power to do something.  A manager can’t throw her hands up when she learns about possible harassment.  Harassment requires her to dig in, tackle the problem, and sometimes, make some really difficult decisions.  Organizations may differ on what exactly they want the manager to do – report to HR, step in and separate the people, suspend the alleged harasser, discipline, etc. – so train the manager on what to do and who to talk to when she needs help.  (Remember, managers need to know enough.)  In manager training, go through scenarios, talk through what the organization would want the managers to do.  This will invite participation, just the kind of interactive dialogue the EEOC and state agencies want in harassment training.

There is no such thing as an official complaint.  A whiff, a rumor, seeing someone uncomfortable or crying, a conversation between a manager and an employee that’s “just between us” all trigger action by an employer.  In order to have a defense to harassment claim, an employer must take “timely and appropriate action” when it learns of harassment, so if a manager learns of harassment, she puts the employer on the hook to take action.  Waiting for an “official” complaint is not only poor management, it creates liability for an employer.  No manager wants to do that.

You will get in trouble for harassing too.  Because the law treats managers as the employer, when a manager engages in harassment, the employer can automatically be liable for the harassment.  Managers have to understand this.

Harassment hasn’t always been clear, and the courts haven’t helped much.  That said, we have an ethical obligation to help employees and managers understand it and how we define respect in our workplaces.  The difference between “You look nice today” and “That dress hugs you in all the right ways” is respect.  One statement is a respectful compliment.  The other can be characterized as harassment.  Will your managers step in when they hear the dress one?  Will they know what to do?  Your managers absolutely need to know what to do at the moment the statement is made or when an employee tells what happened.  So, train them.  Please.

 

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FMLA Screaming (Part II)

Have you pondered the question from yesterday’s post?  Agree with me that there are things you can do and things you should do?  That should do includes approaching FMLA with come compassion and not being super strict with FMLA’s limitations, right?

Yesterday’s post covered some of my tips for the start of FMLA.  Here are a few more for during leave.

Preparation for leave is essential.  Hopefully, the employee knew he needed to go on leave and was able to prepare by giving his manager his passwords, updating her on the status of projects, and plan to turn over work.  Sometimes, this isn’t the case.  An accident, premature delivery, or quick onset of a serious illness can take the employee out of the workplace leaving a manager without the benefit of the advanced notice.  What do you do in these emergency situations?  Leave the employee alone.  The employee is already ill or injured himself, worried about a family member, or facing the crushing reality of being a parent to a new baby.  The status of the sales agreement with customer XYZ is not top of mind.

Let technology help you with not knowing what’s going on.  Get access to email and other systems to help piece together the status of projects without bothering the employee.  Need a password?  Work with the software vendor or your own IT team to recover a password if necessary.  Change permissions so the manager or another team member can see things.  Again, don’t bother the employee.

If the leave is intermittent and the employee’s need for leave could come as a surprise on any given day, plan for what that looks like.  How will the employee handle the sudden need to be off?  Come to an agreement with the employee about his work when this happens.  Does this mean the employee spends the last 10 minutes of each day sending a quick email on the status of things?  Maybe.  (Would that be a nice thing to have anyway even if he didn’t need leave?  Yep!)  Setting expectations is a manager’s job.  If the manager laments every time Juan takes an intermittent day, well then it’s the manager’s problem for not preparing for this – not Juan’s.  (I know, I know, this isn’t a great one-liner to share with the manager, but you all are good coaches, you’ll soften the message.)

Don’t surveil the employee.  Seriously.  Don’t send someone out to watch the employee’s house to see if he is cleaning his gutters or fixing a deck.  Don’t monitor his social media accounts for signs of a vacation.  Assume the employee needed the leave and is using the leave within his or his family member’s health care provider’s instructions.  If something fishy starts happening, you’ll learn about it.  Don’t waste your time and resources beforehand.

When the employee is ready to come back to work, don’t forget the ADA.  Yes, the ADA can be an even bigger headache for employers.  Yes, the Seventh Circuit recently held employers might not have to give more leave than the FMLA requires.  However, the ADA places a reasonableness standard on employers.  Employers are required to consider reasonable accommodations, including leave, for each requesting employee on a case-by-case basis.  Don’t get consumed with “well if we give it to Larry, we’ll have to give it to everyone else.”  Remember, the ADA requires case-by-case analysis.  For more return-to-work tips, check here.

Lastly, remember that communication is really important at the end of leave.  You may want to know if any restrictions are necessary.  You may want more confirmation as to what day.  For requests like these, remember K8’s rule of three.  Ask at least three times in writing before you assume the employee is abandoning his job.

I get that the FMLA is tough.  I get that it can be frustrating for HR and managers.  However, it can be a godsend for employees.  It’s supposed to give them peace of mind that their job will wait for them if they need to be out for a bit.  Use this fact as a part of your compassion and empathy game. The employee will thank you for it.

 

 

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