Harassment & Being the Boss

In response to the #MeToo and #TimesUp movements, state legislatures and localities are taking action, including requiring sexual harassment training and policies that explain where employees can turn if they don’t believe their employer has handled the situation appropriately.  New York’s new law requires that policies explain that employees will be disciplined for engaging in harassment and – perhaps most importantly – managers will be disciplined when they allow harassment to happen.

Did you read that?  Managers will be disciplined for letting harassment continue. This is where NBC, CBS, and nearly every employer who makes the news has allegedly failed – a manager knew about the behavior and didn’t make it stop.  This, ladies and gentlemen, is why manager training is critical to the end of harassment.

The law focuses on managers because managers are the employer.  They make crucial decisions, like hiring and firing.  They sign contracts.  Often, the buck stops with them even if they are in the dreaded middle management.  This means managers are responsible to take action when they get wind of harassment, but often, managers don’t understand the crucial role they play in preventing and stopping harassment.  As legislative bodies take more and more action, here are some of the lessons you can incorporate into your training now:

Managers must know the work environment they create and manage.  For a manager, the word “manage” is in her title.  So, she must actually manage.  Merriam-Webster defines the verb “manage” as “to direct or carry on business or affairs.”  No one can effectively do this if she doesn’t know what is going on or doesn’t understand how her people interact.  So, dear manager, know your people.  Also, set a tone of respect with your people.  Be the example.  (You can have bad days – pobody’s nerfect – but when you make a mistake, acknowledge it and move forward.)  While the “doing” might be more fun, the “managing” is your job.  When you know the work environment, you can take steps to prevent harassment.

Managers have the power to do something.  A manager can’t throw her hands up when she learns about possible harassment.  Harassment requires her to dig in, tackle the problem, and sometimes, make some really difficult decisions.  Organizations may differ on what exactly they want the manager to do – report to HR, step in and separate the people, suspend the alleged harasser, discipline, etc. – so train the manager on what to do and who to talk to when she needs help.  (Remember, managers need to know enough.)  In manager training, go through scenarios, talk through what the organization would want the managers to do.  This will invite participation, just the kind of interactive dialogue the EEOC and state agencies want in harassment training.

There is no such thing as an official complaint.  A whiff, a rumor, seeing someone uncomfortable or crying, a conversation between a manager and an employee that’s “just between us” all trigger action by an employer.  In order to have a defense to harassment claim, an employer must take “timely and appropriate action” when it learns of harassment, so if a manager learns of harassment, she puts the employer on the hook to take action.  Waiting for an “official” complaint is not only poor management, it creates liability for an employer.  No manager wants to do that.

You will get in trouble for harassing too.  Because the law treats managers as the employer, when a manager engages in harassment, the employer can automatically be liable for the harassment.  Managers have to understand this.

Harassment hasn’t always been clear, and the courts haven’t helped much.  That said, we have an ethical obligation to help employees and managers understand it and how we define respect in our workplaces.  The difference between “You look nice today” and “That dress hugs you in all the right ways” is respect.  One statement is a respectful compliment.  The other can be characterized as harassment.  Will your managers step in when they hear the dress one?  Will they know what to do?  Your managers absolutely need to know what to do at the moment the statement is made or when an employee tells what happened.  So, train them.  Please.

 

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FMLA Screaming (Part I)

The Family and Medical Leave Act.  A great idea that causes many HR pros to scream, pull out their hair, and/or outsource their frustration.  So much so, there’s even a blog dedicated to it.  (Read it, Jeff is both funny and smart.)  Even though can be incredibly frustrating, it’s a fact of life that can be made easier by approaching it with a sense of calm and a smidge of empathy. This post includes some basic advice when dealing with FMLA issues.

First off, by in large, employees are not out to “game the system.”  Yes, we’ve all heard of FMLA/ADA/Work Comp fraud.  It is a thing.  However, most employees do not ask for leave to pull one over on their employer.  With that, let’s assume an employee who requests FMLA actually needs leave for herself or her family.  The need for leave is already distressing to the employee.  She is likely worried about her job, and she is also worried about herself or her family.  Focusing only on the impact to the employer will not support her needs in this time of emotional chaos.  Be supportive.

The employee may not know exactly what to do when she needs a leave.  So, she’s going to look at your handbook to find some information.  She will likely do this before she talks with HR.  Make sure your handbook is up-to-date, complete, and explains who to talk to about leave.  If she does not look at your handbook, she is probably going to talk to a trusted co-worker.  Hopefully, this co-worker will know just enough to tell her to talk to her manager.

Next, she will probably say something to her manager.  She might not say “leave.”  She might say “time off” or other words that indicate that she may need a leave.  This requires managers to understand the signals of a leave request, and this requires manager training.  Managers – especially new managers – need to know enough to understand what these signals are and what to do when they see, hear, or otherwise get an inkling that leave is an issue.  If they do, they will send the employee to HR.

Now that she’s made the request, HR needs to use the Department of Labor forms.  I joke when I’m speaking on FMLA topics that HR pros are not graphic designers.  Department of Labor makes the best forms for FMLA.  Nobody creates better forms.  More than 10 of my clients have made the mistake of using a vendor’s forms and not the DOL’s only to come to learn that the vendor didn’t have a very important question on its form that resulted in a loss of sleep, thousands in more settlement dollars, or confusion on the part of the employer and the employee.  Here’s the link to the forms.  Bookmark it.  One more tip:  Always go back to this page.  The forms get updated from time-to-time so the most up-to-date forms will be at this link.  Please do not print off 10-100 copies and stick them in a file cabinet.  Print a new set every time an employee requests leave.

Remember the cadence of the forms.  FMLA regulations set out when forms must be doled out and returned.  Understand these timelines and make sure you – the employer – follows them closely.  The DOL’s FMLA Employer Guide does a great job outlining these.  Bookmark it as well.

If an employee doesn’t turn in the forms on time, use K8’s rule of three (trademark pending) – request the employee return the forms three different times and document each of those attempts over a period of several days.  Send an email to her personal email.  Send a letter.  Send a text message (and screenshot the text).  If she still does not respond and is capable of responding (isn’t in a coma or otherwise hospitalized), then talk to your friendly neighborhood employment attorney.

Next, calm the manager by being proactive.  Managers can freak out about losing an employee to a leave.  They get nervous about how work is going to get done.  They worry about how and if other employees will be able to pick up the slack.  Go to managers with a plan.  Ask if they will need temporary help, an employee from another team who could step in on a temporary basis, or if another hire will be needed since the team was already overworked.  Approaching a manager with some options will help calm some likely frazzled nerves.

Tomorrow’s post will have some more tips on the FMLA, including what to do during the leave and preparing for a return to work.  In the meantime, consider this:  There is a difference between strict FMLA compliance that follows the letter of the law and being a bit more flexible with employees.  Relying on the strict letter may not seem fair to the employee.

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